SO many of us have sat and waited for signs, when, really, we can start the conversation!
If you’re wondering how to ask for signs and messages from loved ones who’ve passed away, I have a few suggestions that have worked for me and some that have worked for clients and friends.
Before I give you those tips, though, I need you to know a few things.
Your loved one is 100% OK. Your loved ones {truly} want you to care for yourself here. That is the most powerful way to connect with them. They do not want you to be hurting.
If they don’t answer you, that doesn’t mean they have abandoned you or don’t love you. This is not unusual at the beginning of grief; they are getting used to their new place. Please do not internalize this lack of a response.
If trying to get a sign from them gives you anxiety or becomes an obsession, it is time to take a break. Try to read a book, connect with a friend, watch a movie, or go for a walk. Talk to a trusted friend or even a therapist. A watched kettle never boils, or something like that, but also, it is incredibly unhealthy for you to be in your own head.
Now, for the meaty stuff:
How to ask for messages and signs:
Everyone’s beliefs and experiences differ, but I’m happy to share some ideas with you. One of the most important things to know is that connecting with your loved ones is a two-way street. Odd to say that, but sometimes, they are looking for a request from YOU.
Here are some ways to create the conversation and ask for signs:
First, find a nice, quiet spot where you feel comfy and can focus your thoughts. When you’re ready, clearly state your intention to connect with your loved one, either out loud or just in your head. You might want to picture their face or think about a special memory you shared.
When asking for a sign, be specific about what you’re looking for. This can make it easier to recognize the sign when it shows up. Also, remember to stay open-minded and patient since messages might not come immediately or in the form you expect.
Try giving them a prop. I’ve done this myself when I was too upset to get a clear message from my late husband, and I have also suggested it for my clients. Get a book of poems they would connect with, a channel on Spotify, the Bible, or any piece of communication they would like. Set your intention, open it up to a page, play a song or something similar, and be open-minded to what you see or hear. You never know what might show up!
Meditation or prayer can be helpful for some people, so try it if it feels right to you. You can also ask your loved one to visit you in your dreams or give you a sign while sleeping. Finally, keep a dream journal nearby to jot down any messages or experiences you have.
Another idea is to write a letter to your loved one, expressing your feelings and asking for a sign. This can help you process your emotions and set the intention for communication.
Finally, when you get a sign or feel their presence, don’t forget to say thanks! Expressing gratitude for the connection is essential, as this lets them know you’ve heard it.
Remember that there’s no guarantee you’ll receive a sign (even in a reading), and everyone’s experiences can differ. If you’re struggling with your loss, don’t hesitate to contact friends, family, or a grief counselor for support. Your loved ones want you to know you are loved, but they also want you to take care yourself here on Earth.